26 Nov, 2008
20 Secrets of Great Relationships & Busby SEO Test
Posted by: busby-seo-test In: Men & Women
Maintaining a relationship whether for love, friendship, among others requires commitment and interest. The same heart that Busby SEO Test participants devote in this competition. David Niven, author of 100 Simple Secrets of Great Relationships, shared what scientists have learned in his book. Here are 20 of them that caught my attention.
1. The mundane is heroic
Sacrificing your immediate preferences and being committed to sharing, caring, and listening are mundane but heroic steps toward your lifetime relationship goals.
2. See possibilities where others see obstacles
Constant attention to the weaknesses of any relationship will weaken it. Constant attention to the strengths of any relationship will strengthen it.
3. Set rules for conflict
Decide on how you can air concerns to each other in a format that allows both of you to participate.
4. Anyone can find a happy relationship
Fulfilling relationships have everything to do with who you are but not with what you are.
5. It’s not how hard you try
Work on your relationship with logic and reason, not with maximum effort.
6. You have nothing to envy
Don’t be envious or compete to become better than your partner. Real prize of content and more satisfying relationship goes to those who refuse to compete with their partner.
7. Attitude triumphs over outcome
Continue being someone who contributes to others’ happiness, see the good around you, and offer love, affection, and support to the right partner.
8. Don’t be bound by tradition
Live within your own standards.
9. The past is not the future
Learn from your experience and avoid mistakes of the past.
10. No one wins the comparison game
Your relationship must be evaluated based on your own needs, not on the relationship success of those around you.
11. See the love around you
Think of the many people who love you and the depth of their love for you.
12. Doing nothing is rarely a solution
Approach relationship problems with all your attention and abilities, the way you would be approaching anything that is important to you.
13. Pursue what you need forever, not what you want today
View the search for a happy relationship not as a process of immediate satisfaction but as a means to pursue your fundamental needs.
14. The Relationship Test: Are you Lonely?
If you are in a relationship and you say yes, then the relationship is not meeting your most fundamental needs.
15. A relationship requires two equals
In the project that is a relationship, no one gets top billing because without two equals there is no relationship.
16. Cultivate a common interest
Common interests encourage positive communication, fun, and they strengthen the connection between partners.
17. Money can’t buy love, but it can buy stress
Put money in its place — behind what really matters to you.
18. There are no mind readers
We often set up our partners to fail us in situations by not disclosing our feelings and the situation as we see it. When you need support, explain the situation. The response you receive will not only be meaningful but also more powerful.
19. Friends speak from experience - their own
Value their friendship, but understand that their advice applies primarily to themselves.
20. Drink less
Light drinkers are happier and more confident in their relationships.
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